Peace When Things Get Heated
Sep 18, 2022
Maybe you've had someone go off for no apparent reason on you, too?
The other day I was driving on the interstate. A motorcyclist went by, going about 90 miles an hour. About 10 minutes later, the motorcyclist was in the lane in front of me, stuck in stand-still traffic.
It was a hot, sunny southern day, the motorcyclist was in full leather gear and sitting on a hot engine, going nowhere and without the air conditioning the rest of us were enjoying. As we rolled forward about 5 feet at a time, suddenly this person started waving their arms, flipping me off and yelling. My guess is that they thought I was too close but what I know for sure is that their behavior was about them, not about be. Hot and frustrated at not being able to fly down the road, it was easy to take their frustration out on me. I gave an exaggerated shrug, hoping to signal that I didn’t mean to do whatever they thought I did but it didn’t stop the bad behavior. Taking a video of them behaving like a fool did.
Hey, whatever it takes – just don’t take it personally if someone goes off on you. It would have been very easy for me to get defensive and angry, too, rolling down the window and shouting back at them. And what would that have accomplished? I would have been as angry as the motorcyclist and we'd both still be stuck in traffic, seething and yelling. Ugh...no, thank you!
When someone behaves badly towards you, don't become as miserable as they are by engaging in their craziness. Remember, it’s about them, not about you.
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